What does it mean to be “stuck”? Often times I feel stuck! Stuck in my life (in general), in my business, in my health, in my relationships!
I’m sure you know the feeling when you just want something different, better, or more, but you don’t know what “that” something!
Fortunately, this feeling doesn’t happen in all areas of life for most of us all at the same time, nor does it last forever. I also refer to this feeling as being in a “rut” with no way out. No choices. No choices other than what I have always done before, which often results in an unwanted or undesired state.
Recently I read an article on MindBodyGreen “5 Things to Do If you are Feeling Stuck in Life” , which had a great discussion about how critical the feeling of stuck can sometimes make one feel. As a society and culture we do not like the feeling of being stuck. We have a desperate desire to get out of the stuck or unwanted state.
Sometimes, we want it so badly that we focus all our attention on the feeling of being stuck and can’t possibly see how to get to a desired or wanted state. This feeling becomes real. It may lead to anxiety, depression and self-loath.
What do we do about it?
The good news is that we don’t have to stay in this unwanted state forever.Yes, it feels uncomfortable, but it’s important to listen to the “stuckness” and let it evolve to something positive.
The idea would be to allow ourselves to set in this feeling of being stuck and listen. Listen to what may need attention. Be curious as to how to transfer the experience of being stuck and move through to the other side where more options exist.
When I find myself in a rut, I often find myself avoiding what needs to be accomplished or focusing on what I can’t change. These are few things I find for myself that help me get out of my rut:
- Talk! Get it out. Find someone to talk with to share about being stuck. Getting it out helps the brain process and relax. Being able to voice the feeling allows other options to be heard.
- Journal. Similar to sharing, journaling opens up options and allows the brain to stay curious.
- Listen to your thoughts - Pay attention! This is a big one. Often times when feelings of being stuck arise, they may arise out of feelings of inadequacy, or inferiority. What are we saying to ourselves? Turn those negative thoughts into positive thoughts.
- Dream. Dream Big. Think about things you want or desire instead. Ask the question, “I wonder what I would do if things were as I wanted (rather than stuck)?....AND then do it!
Being in a stuck state is never a pleasant experience, BUT being aware when the stuck state is present and then giving yourself permission, helps ease the unpleasantness and prevents an occurrence from happening again too soon.
Want to talk more about being stuck? Schedule a time with me on the calendar and we'll talk through your options.